Hey,
So yesterday I wrote an email story about a person who prepped for the show and
didn't place.
This person never publicly complained and still had only good things to say about the experience and the event.
As of today two people had written back and said it was one of their favorite emails they have read.
But not everyone enjoyed that email...
One person complained and FIVE people no longer want to receive my emails...
Some
people are super competitive and I did and do not mean for that email to offend people or think this whole EVERYONE SHOULD BE HAPPY kinda thing... disappointment is one thing yet anger is another.
People quote-on-quote "compete" I get it. People want to win and it is understandable.
Many people instead of digging deep and really figuring out what changes to make for the following year look to JUSTIFY not placing and scoring
as high as they wanted.
Only one person per division is going to win. That leaves a lot of people who have to decide how they want to feel and react when it's all over.
Honestly though the MAJORITY OF PEOPLE HANDLE THIS VERY WELL.
It's the few people who just can't handle not winning.
Some people just do a show for the accomplishment and the goal. Through the years I've
noticed that
the men usually compete longer and some a whole decade of doing shows over and over. Women it really
depends because many get engaged and plan a wedding then start having babies and some make incredible come-backs and many times get into getting shape then before the babies. Some other people though this whole fitness thing consumes them and becomes their life.
Some people go to a whole different extreme level and they
may jump to another federation and they may use substances to enhance muscle building (yeah steroids). I'm talking about girls... they go from being cute to jacked (I'm not judging) and they enter a contest with only a few in their class and maybe win.
We all may know a person who has done that. It happens and LET ME BE CLEAR I'm not saying it to point anyone out.
Personally, I think that is a shame and if you can't win a show clean then
why get on all this gear and mess your body up inside? Then go enter a contest at some venue that they turn all the white lights on the stage and maybe one banner in the background with no production and hand out trophies. That's it! It's the TROPHY.
A true competitor would want to place Top 5 or Top 10 in a BIG show and a person with low-confidence may be okay with winning a class of only one or two other people and finally getting a first place
trophy.
Entering shows can be great confidence builders and they can be fun too.
The thing is it sounds better to say you won period. How did you do? "I WON!"
Doesn't matter if you placed 3rd out of 25 people in one class because it sounds better to say you won out of a class of under five people. Okay, I'm the guy that when people say they won asks How Many People? I'm that
guy...
I'd rather be the person placing 3rd out of 25 on an incredible stage, big venue and sold out crowd then the person who goes in a show and is 1st out of 5.
Well if it sounds like a rant it is not and I'm not apologizing for what I'm trying to get out as a message while some people just do not want to agree and will argue the point of this email.
At the end of the day DO BETTER. BE
BETTER the next year.
You are disappointed? I agree with a level of disappointment but be careful not to turn that against other people. We all never know who will show up and be on stage next to you. Get over it and WORK HARDER. Each year the level of competition is different.
Enjoy it! Enjoy the whole process. People don't get into this kind of shape without a BIG GOAL.
How many people you know who get to go to
Mohegan Sun and get on a stage? How about never in their lifetime...
OKAY
I'll pause and take a breather.
This is really meant to be POSITIVE yet tough because people are very sensitive to it.
Once competitors go down that road of being angry it's hard to turn it around and back to a positive experience.
Now I'm going to share the response from Bricks email
yesterday.
Stay the course,
Brian
